Sunday, March 25, 2012

I'm Glad We Didn't Have Social Media!

Hello All!

Every once in a while, I think of something that is worth sharing (its very rare). Today I saw a tweet about where we would be if there was no social networking. That is such a fascinating topic. It has been such an important part of our lives for several years now and it has seemingly changed the fabric of our society.

Instead of giving you the checklist on what NOT to do in social networking, I will tell you what I would have probably done that would have been wrong/stupid/irresponsible when I was in high school...

I would have definitely vented on social media. What I mean is I would have complained about work, school, friends, parents, etc. This is obviously a terrible, terrible platform for such things! Everyone would have seen it and you can't take it back! Not to mention that as a Christian, it is counter-productive to winning souls to Christ! I would have definitely been guilty of this. Here is the thing, as a teenager, you are going to get frustrated. You are close to adulthood, but without the privileges that come with it. Its a tough time. So, do what we did growing up, call a friend and talk! It is private, you get your frustrations out and you don't say something that is destructive (and in some cases illegal) on twitter or facebook.

In short, there is nothing wrong with social media in and of itself. I personally will not follow anyone that complains, why would I listen to negativity by choice!

So, be careful what you do on social media!

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Post 4: I honestly (think) I love you

Wow...it has been almost a year since I have blogged about relationships! I promised that I would finish it soon, so I am going to get started on post number four immediately.

The first three posts, biggest distraction ever, you can't handle the truth and you are too ugly to get a girl were seemingly well received and I have had many people talk to me about it. I am glad that those posts have helped some people! This post will be very, very personal...just to warn you.

The year was 1999 and I was a teenager in love. She was all I could think about, all I wanted to think about, all I wanted. I would watch romantic movies and cry, it was hopeless. Admittedly, I can be a bit emotional on occasion, but this was ridiculous. I was so in love that I was convinced we would be together forever, no one could tell me differently. Luckily (or unluckily) she felt the same way, we were all about each other. I couldn't sleep at night because I would be thinking about her. My friends wanted to kill me and they had every right because I was super annoying. I had never felt like that before, you know, the butterflies, no appetite, completely head over heels in love.

Teenager, have you ever felt that way? Are you dating them right now??

In my other posts, I have called the heart a 'lying whore' so I will change my tone a little with this post. Those feelings are real, those thoughts are validated by how you feel, I know, I have been there.

Here is the fear. What if those feelings are the enemy trying to keep you from a greater calling? Remember that our primary goal as a follower of Christ is to live worthy of the calling on our lives, not to chase an emotion. I see so many high school students jumping from relationship to relationship, trying to catch that feeling. Granted, feeling 'in love' is fun, I know, but there is a problem when that 'feeling' is felt for a significant other and NOT Jesus. You can be in love with a person AND Jesus, but if the love for this other person, takes your eyes OFF of Jesus, then that is a problem.

I told you want I did while I was 'in love,' but I never told you want I didn't do. I didn't read my bible, I didn't pray about Gods will, I didn't take the advice of Godly counsel, I didn't have peace. You see, the Devil wants you to be ineffective by ANY MEANS NECESSARY. He will place EXACTLY what you want RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, if what you want is something other than Christ. The tough thing is that he will package it in such a way that you (without consulting God) will rationalize it as a good thing. I did that, heck...I have done that many times!

In conclusion, you may truly love that person, but you may not. Those feelings mean very little, remember I told you about all the feelings I felt, yet I am unmarried. Not only am I unmarried, I know without a doubt that God does not want me to be with that particular woman (she is married now, but I have known that long before the fact). This is what I beg of you, pray for Gods will in it.

The next post is entitled "Stuff your parents don't have the guts to tell you." Should be fun...

May God bless each of you!